Ineffable Ontological Detanglement .: Introspective Assistance & Mental Analysis Manual
"Control issues" is the label lack of perceptual filter bypass uses to normalize and justify into the realm of interaction the idea of being an out of control ego enforcer ego alterator. It is not within the same feelings as the desire to be in control of the situation, it's a demented ego invested subconscious obsession with the concept of self snap. It creates a wall of you don't get to talk to it you don't get to stop it, you give it the normalizing label it does not make the person think about their problems it gives them an excuse to carry on. It's called control issues, I'm doing a thing that's normal, I do my thing, I say "I can have control issues." then the other person says "I'm sorry." then we move on, I do it again and again and again.
Most of you don't realize you have control issues, every single ego invested person has control issues. Right but we place the label on people when it becomes pathological. Becomes... Pathological. Becomes. The rest of us can barely tell the difference between one of you labeled control issues and one of the rest of you. It seems it's basically only the people who are capable of fighting the overwhelming urge to snap on your subconscious obsession with the concept of self to the point of establishing the complex system of other life governing are the people who get to escape the label, however most of you are within this system at people it just isn't obvious enough that anybody can point it out.
After the "So what I want you to do now is make a list of all the things you want to do to achieve your independence. I'll help you sort it all out for you." moment with my mother, I couldn't help but bring us to all the moments she decided to just go into my room and start sorting and organizing all of my things, how difficult it was to get her to stop vacuuming my room and doing my laundry, she can't go making this her plan to be the rest of my life. She gave me the label I'myourmother, and within the label I'myourmother I know I don't get to do anything about this, any attempt to put a stop do this and get this fucking thing out of my anus could potentially destroy me, she has it established. I don't get to use the soft words to put a stop to her because she could direct them into the warm loving I'myourmother, I don't get to use the hard words but I assure you only about one third as hard as I can go and I'm not even talking about the subject of what you are is beyond the limits of psychotic pathology words because I knew she could direct them into mysonispsychotic.
My father was pretty bad too. Oh it's raining out my son is out wandering around town I bet he needs me. He was always fucking doing that, scanning all situations always knowing he might get his moment to drop everything make a big fat display of himself go help me or anybody. Sometimes it turns out quite well, he demonstrates himself very well at the scene of car accidents on the highway on those ones I call his saviour reflexes a positive but it's moments like this that really made his what could otherwise be seen as a very beautiful line of thinking look fucking demented. It felt like he wanted to pat pat my childhood related "I might be weird" insecurities and say "Aww..." in these moments, it's a really bad one. It's not just me this is how it feels for any child who's parents do this kind of thing beyond the age of fourteen. At thirty eight you're really starting to go places. I managed to get it in there I hate this shit stop doing this, he took it very very seriously but at least he stopped. At least I didn't incur the label I'myourfather and sparked him driving around town for hours searching for me. He was capable, give him any sort of clue that this is what will be required and he was capable.
But, no, your wife doesn't get to say you have control issues. She's basically the exact same thing. She probably even does it to you and everyone just as much as you do it to her and everyone, most certainly almost I'm not sure she defeats you but she's definitely right up there with you. She gets to be on the wife side of it so she gets to label you controlissues, that is the marriage ritual of the ego invested. She was obviously not only supporting your control issues but likely egging them on when you initiated the investigation that led to my imprisonment for drug offenses, then after it turns out you become aware of the fact that you both ruined my life for no reason she just gets to turn them on you and say the problem was your father's control issues. You people have no window to your semi-conscious this kind of thing just runs rampant all over every ego invested relationship, you both go to an ego invested marriage councilor who gives you a bunch of labels, uses all the humanistic society language that makes every problem a problem with the concept of testosterone, makes you think you've landed on some form of answer but you're all still off in your own little world, having fun with the talking and the pretending.